The seventh house is also known as the Libra house. Libra is here to form partnerships, harmonize with their fellow men, and balance themselves and others by weighing up the metaphorical scales. Because Libra is ruled by the planet Venus, this sign is generally able to do this in a charming and passive way. The seventh house, however, may show us where these types of events occur within our lives, depending on the personal, natal planets in the house.
While Libra strives to integrate with others, Venus appreciates romance and intimacy. The seventh house is similar to Libra and Venus, while its focus is on where these desires, or lack thereof, are expressed. In this house, we can find things like marriage, partnerships, relationships, how we relate to others, enemies or rivalries, pairs, friendships, one-on-ones, cooperation, parties, social gatherings, projections, and our ability to relate to people as a whole.
The first house through the sixth houses are more internal houses, where we work on ourselves by ourselves. Conversely, the seventh house is the first house in which we work on ourselves with the help of others. The eighth through the twelfth houses also work more externally rather than privately. These last six houses are where we involve others in our experiences and how they are directly influenced by us and vice versa, which shapes our perception of the world.
In the case of the seventh house specifically, we often unconsciously project aspects of ourselves, oftentimes ones that we dislike, onto those we get close to. This most frequently happens to those we become intimately involved with or those we marry. This helps us, however, by helping us to see what is a reflection of ourselves in someone else and pushing us to progressively move toward change and growth. On the other hand, we place blame or deny this possibility and build resentment and bitterness.
Those who have multiple planets in the seventh house are likely to go through many serious relationships without realizing they’re struggling to love themselves and integrate two sides of themselves. As a result of a lack of self-love, they search for this unfulfilled love in others. If these planets are malefic planets, these relationships may be toxic or abusive.
People who don’t have any planets in the seventh house are more likely to have fewer relationships. When they become involved with others, they’re probably long-term commitments. For more insight, it is helpful to look at the sign ruler of the personal seventh house, as well as aspects of this house.
Planets in the Seventh House
Sun: This person is very reactive to others and their treatment toward them. They’re shaped by the partnerships they create. It is literally in the life force that drives them to create harmonious bonds between themselves and others they care for. As if only realizing who they are or who they want to be can be done through knowing another (very deeply) that they finally fuel their purpose and calm the ongoing, anxious search. However, this person should never settle for less than value. There is potential here to meet someone of high status, power, or reputation- who equally loves them
Moon: This person can be anywhere, within anything, and with anyone. They blend so perfectly that the room forms them or they form the room and there’s no difference. At some point, however, they may gain a shallow reputation because of this; although it was never their intention to be shallow. They only wanted to understand all walks of life. It’s not unusual for this person to have a jealous spouse who leaves for similar reasons. This person needs someone as sensitive as they are, who will give them affection and freedom. Family is very involved here as well.
Mercury: If the person you date doesn’t engage your heart and stimulate your mind at the same time, your body will not be okay with them touching you. This placement indicates a conflict of the mind/body, body/heart, heart/mind, etc. Either way, the most important/attractive quality in a person for them is someone who can make them laugh, teach them new things, and engage in frequent debate and discussion. Perhaps you encounter frequent flings, but this is because you keep it so casual at first and often decide quite suddenly it’s going nowhere.
Venus: Anyone who is too loud or aggressive with you will never do. This individual needs someone who is charming and polite. Some of them, however, will end up with con artists and players. After being betrayed once or twice, you become much choosier about who you allow in. You’re independent and don’t need anyone, but you do crave a partner and a good connection to someone, however. When your expectations become grounded and you find that person, you’ll both have to be careful not to take or give too much from one another and compromise instead.
Mars: This placement increases marriage issues, especially with one’s temperament and anger toward their partner. This person is usually not a team player and doesn’t enjoy taking a back seat to anyone, much less an equal counterpart, because they’re very competitive. They want to be in charge and can even be intolerable toward their partners. This person has a very lively and passionate sex life with their partner but can be hasty and unfaithful if unhappy and challenged emotionally by the partner or the partner’s family.
Jupiter: This person usually gets others’ attention by ways of philosophy or knowledge acquired through traveling and getting to know the world on a level much deeper than the surface. Oftentimes, they marry someone, quite coincidentally, who expands this person culturally as well as financially. The downside to this placement is that the person may also have a “grass is always greener on the other side” mentality and that can cause real trouble for them; if they’re not mindful. Be careful not to trust too easily, following a period of self-doubt and giving up partnerships entirely.
Saturn: Serious-minded about relationships they choose to get into, this person doesn’t open up with ease and in fact, it is a struggle for them to be vulnerable. They don’t, however, give up easily or even endure a terrible marriage rather than let it go because they’re afraid to open up to someone else again. Sometimes, they marry older people, who already have success or money, and don’t rush to communicate at a deeper level with their partner. There could even be some type of double life, while also staying loyal; such as keeping work and friends separate from family and home.
Uranus: This person often has to deal with extreme changes in partnerships and usually it’s by the choices or actions of the person they’re involved with. Unfortunately, their love lives swing like a pendulum. They do, however, have a colorful array of relationships and never give u. Always learning something new about people as a whole, they’ll usually choose quite bizarre or eccentric types to involve themselves with, even if they themselves are conservative. Having a romantic and dreamy outlook, they’re very attractive to others. If they marry, it will be an odd/unordinary marriage.
Neptune: This person is oftentimes quite disillusioned about their relationships with others. Although they could have literal psychic realizations about who their partner may actually be, they’ll continue living in denial for a long time to avoid the painful truth. Not realizing how high their standards are, however, this person’s dreams are usually dramatically shot down at a sudden heartbreak. After another individual or more has completely taken advantage of this person and caused them deep trauma, they may finally realize the commitments are not worth continuing to try because they often feel tricked when they actually choose not to acknowledge the reality.
Pluto: It isn’t uncommon for this person to many times become involved in strange, toxic, or even dangerous relationships, ranging from abusive partners to manipulating co-workers to obsessive stalkers. Unbeknownst to the individual with this placement, they are usually dealing with karma that is trying to work itself out in this lifetime. Although seemingly horrifying to onlookers and outsiders, this person also has some rather successful and blissful times that teach them a great deal of wisdom. A difficult path, this person makes a great listener and is understanding. They’re often an intense, deep soul, who truly transforms those who bond with them.